For those who do not know what sisig is, it’s a delicious (I know that this is a relative description) pork or sometimes ears and onions and chilli pepper (click here and here for recipes). For those who want to try, here are some links to restaurants who serve sisig (twetyfive.hubpages.com). Well it is abundant in the Philippines; many restaurants serve this, especially in restobars since it goes well with alcoholic beverages.
No, this is not a recipe or how-to-cook blog, unbelievably it’s about love or relationships per se. Yes, love. This started when my friends and I were eating Sisig while discussing about relationships and what not.
Sam (names have been changed for the convenience and the protection of privacy of my dearest beloveds) was asking us what is it that a relationship need most. “Is love enough? What if trust is gone can you still have a functioning relationship?”
It’s true, in relationships it is vital that you have all those components that people say: Trust, fidelity, respect, love. But can you go with one and without the other? In movies and in real life as well, people ‘fall out of love’, but some still choose to stay in that particular relationship because, they have been there their whole life and they trust that person and that other person loves them. Will that be worth all of the time and effort in the long run? Will that kind of relationship work? Or you love that person fully, with all of your heart and humanity; will that be enough to be the glue that holds down a relationship? Can love conquer it all? Even if the other person does not love you back?Even if you know that you’ll keep hurting? Can one accept something that he or she never thought she could?
“Ang love, parang pagkain lang yan ng sisig, tignan mo, hindi naman ako kakain ng onion na onion lang, o kaya ng sili na sili lang, pero ‘pag kasama siya sa isang recipe tulad ng sisig, kinakain mo na siya”(Love (or the act of loving of someone) is like eating something like sisig. You won’t eat onion alone or a chilli pepper alone, BUT when it is incorporated in a recipe, like sisig, you are able to eat it.)
I am no expert in this matter. In fact may be the worst resource person with this topic: young, with no experience with love. I am not sure that I believe in love. I am not even sure if there is a definition or there are just multiple concepts or kinds.
But, as I have observed (safely from a distance), relationships tend to be something to work for. It is not a stagnant vacuum state, where it can either be heaven or hell. It is both. It is work and fun.
It is similar to eating. People just do not eat to slake one’s hunger, yes it is part of that, but you enjoy the moment, you smell, taste and feel the food. It is not just mechanical. It’s not just ‘hungry?-eat’; it’s actually, ‘hungry?-what to eat? – Okay, eat. – do I like this’. There is this decision making every time. You have the choice what to eat and whether to continue ingesting it.
I believe in love, like in food, it won’t have flavour on it alone. It has to react to you (in food, with your tastebuds). For a sisig to be sisig, it has to have all those ingredients. For love to be love – I am not sure what the ingredients are exactly – it has to have trust, fidelity, honesty and what not…
Love and Sisig are two not so different things at all. And now, I am craving for some…
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